Lately I have been struggling with those who do like me and those that do not. Those who want my company and those who don't. I am just having a hard time with meeting people that are not social butterflies, like myself. I understand its OK to have a few good girlfriends but I want 1,000 with no drama. I understand that not everyone is going to think I am the coolest person they have ever met and want to hang out with me all the time. I just see myself as someone who has no animosity, who tends to be non-judging, OK so yes I might be a little crazy or have crazy people tendencies but I hope I am not judged by those! Maybe this is my funk, maybe not! But this is MY blog, MY journal and this is what I would write!
If you know me then you know I of course googled friendship and came up with this explanation!
Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them.
Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating the following on a consistent basis:
the tendency to desire what is Best for each other,
Sympathy and Empathy,
Honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth, especially in terms of pointing out the perceived faults of one's counterpart,
mutual understanding.
I am surprised to admit that nowhere in there did it state you have to be funny, outgoing, absurd, irrational. I mean come on those are my many traits. I do have my few good girlfriends, you know who you are, I would eat a cake in one sitting for all of you.....no big deal! LOL!
Maybe I am crazy, Maybe I dont need everyone to want to be my BFF maybe I should just SETTLE~!
No not everyone can be your BFF but you also don't have to SETTLE for anything or anyone. Be you and be it to the fullest. If there is a strange and conflicted soul out there that doesn't want to be your friend. THERE LOSS!!! Love you and know that you are loved :)
ReplyDeleteI feel you girl. I have been having the same thoughts lately. Just know that you are you and many people love you for it. Don't change and you should be content with the girlfriends you do surround yourself with. Love ya.
ReplyDeleteAre there really people out there who don't want to be your BFF? That's crazy and I would have never guessed that to be true. I for one LOVE ya and ALWAYS look forward to the time we spend together. Forget anyone else who doesn't feel the same.
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